Two Books That Helped My Toddler STOP HITTING

Everything is a phase, everything is a phase. I repeated to myself to calm my nerves after being repeatedly stuck by my toddler.   At this daunting moment, a few months ago I had a child kicking and screaming, a red spot on my face, tears in my eyes and knew something had to change.  The ‘terrible twos’ were pretty rough for us-rough being a pretty big understatement.  Our little girl had many, many meltdowns.   She also has a challenge that only a few other toddlers have to deal with, a younger sibling that is less than a year and a half younger copying everything she does and wanting to play with all the same toys.   Thus ensued the meltdowns- I’m sad to even admit she started hitting me often and occasionally her younger brother.   This upset me a great deal to have her lash out and hit me over and over again.  I would cry my eyes out after being hit, scratched, and even had my hair pulled out by my own child.  I felt like a dog owner scared that their own dog might bite them.   We don’t hit in our house for punishment so I wasn’t even sure where she was picking this behavior up.     

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My first step as a mom with parenting troubles was to reach out to other parents.   Most of my mom friends have boys and weren’t seeing the same over dramatic and aggressive behaviors.   Some of the parents I talked to said “hit her back.”  This didn’t sit well with me, being an educator I know you can’t solve hitting with hitting- its like assigning writing for punishment.   I even reached out to one of my best friends who has a Master’s Degree in psychology for help.   After she reached out to some of her colleagues who deal with children we mostly got to a dead end that you don’t truly have a problem on your hands until the child is five.   My first thought was-I can’t live like this for three more years! 

I ended up trying to figure out why my daughter was frustrated and angry-when and why was she throwing these fits and hitting.   She was an early talker and has a great vocabulary for her age so I didn’t think it was a communication problem, it was a “control or express your anger problem.”   The teacher in me knows with a great story and positive reinforcement like I would use on my students for classroom management I could help my little girl work on this issue.    I ended up finding two great books No Hitting by Karen Katz and Keeping Your Cool: A Book About Anger by Carolyn Larsen on Amazon.  (Thank goodness for Amazon Prime!)  

   

These books were so great for my daughter to learn why we don’t hit AND what are good ways to express anger and frustration.    Those emotions we know as adults never go away but we can get them out.  Me personally, I get them out by getting in a good workout or dropping an F bomb because that can really calm me down, but as toddlers we don’t know how to appropriately express this anger.  I then found my mission, I needed to find ways for my toddler to get out those emotions in a healthy manner.   My daughter loves to read so I knew a fun new book could really open her eyes on this subject.    After a couple rocky months of doing positive reinforcement, time outs, and reading both of these books every so often (the book No Hitting my daughter has even memorized) I can say that I feel like we are over this hitting slash stage 10 nuclear meltdown-for now anyways.   These two books, No Hitting and Keeping Your Cool really helped us out and they are so inexpensive definitely give them a try!

XOXO

Your Redlocks and Shamrocks Girl,

Lisa Doyle

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10 Tips on Surviving Flying with Toddlers & Babies

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10 Tips for Surviving Flying with Toddlers & Babies

Hello Redlocks and Shamrocks readers! My family recently got back from a vacation and I’ve been flooded with questions about flying with kids so I’ve got a post for those mamas!  When my husband and I were ‘single’ aka married but no with kids we used to travel all the time!  We loved going on vacation and exploring new places.  Once we had kids traveling with two little people became a game changer- 10 times more stuff and crazy attitudes!  Check out my top 10 tips on surviving traveling with toddlers and babies. 

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1.First up Make a plan and prep whatever you can early.  Copy birth certs, pack, restock diaper bag- don’t forget extra clothes for you and baby!  A blow out in the airport might happen-and has to me! 

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2. Pack NEW entertainment and snacks: Pick up a fun backpack with dollar store toys and books, small snacks, and a sippy cup for the toddler to carry!  My kids loved getting a new bag and toys to explore on the airplane.   Dollar store stuff is the way to go so if it gets lots it’s no big deal.  I also packed tons of snacks!  Anything under 4oz is okay to take through security so I packed packets, string cheese, baggies of goldfish etc.  I kept these backpacks hidden until we made it through security.  

3. Be a minalmist! This is coming from a woman who once packed just a suitcase full of shoes for a 5 day vacation.  Lol but yes pack as little as possible!  For you and kids!  If where you are staying has a washer/dryer take advantage of that.   

4. A major question to save your arm strength: Do you really need that pack n’ play?  After a trip with a 4 month old, 21 month old, purse, diaper bag, three pieces of luggage, a stroller, travel bassinet, and a pack and play I knew we were traveling as ‘light’ as possible but it’s still wayyyy too much stuff!  This time we recently traveled we made sure to get a rental property that came with a pack and play that way we didn’t have to bring one.  There are also inexpensive pack and plays on Amazon for around 40 dollars, I know a few families that had one shipped to their location then cut their losses.   When our son was only four months old, we purchased this travel bassinet which fits inside a suitcase suitcase-it was extremely handy.

5. This next tip hurts my heart a little being a rule follower and all but here it is-cut in line! My husband used to be a VIP for Southwest Airlines with an automatic A-List pass which allows you skip security lines-it’s a dream!  But with children and lack of traveling for work he lost this VIP status so we followed the ‘fake it till you make it’ rule.   Even though he lost this A-List pass we went in the fast line anyways.  I know, I know totally an A-hole move, but most of the time they don’t check and would they really turn away a family with two crying kids in an airport? Worth a try! Also some airlines allow you to go through the handicap line if you have a stroller.

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6. Ask your airline about family boarding.  Each airline has its own rules with boarding so make sure you ask to know all the rules.

7. Gate check strollers– once you get through security you have to go to the counter and get a gate check tag. I didn’t know this the first time I flew and had to go all the way back to the counter and we missed family boarding.  Yuck!   Right before you board the airplane you can leave your stroller in the gate and they will put it right back there after you land.  Buy these stroller and car seat protectors.  Germaphobes unite! These are totally worth the money and will keep your car seat clean under the airplane.   When you pick up these bags they will be filthy and you will be happy that you bought them. 

8. If you have a baby try to breastfeed or give a bottle during take off and landing. This will help with their ears popping.   Breastfeeding mamas-if you get a window seat you can get a lot of privacy.

9. This is my biggest tip: just go with the flow! Got a screaming kid? Do your best to calm them down by distracting them with objects out the window.  Child doesn’t want to sit on your lap try to convince them buy busting out an iPad or new book, we even read the emergency exit guide in the back pocket of the seat.  Or even get creatvie by making a hand puppet out of the airsick bag!  But if all else fails just go with the flow, you’re trying your best and you’ll never see these travelers again who cares if they are staring at you with their judgie eyes-you’re doing your best.     

In the middle of TSA security my older child had a stage 10 meltdown and my infant had a blowout with both kids screaming all I could do was smile at everyone staring at me and no one helping just staring.   Some people even moved our stuff off the conveyer belt to put their stuff on (I know-rude).  Then there will be that one mom, who has been there before.  Who will kneel down and help try to sooth your screaming toddler.  She will point out her Elsa backpack or sing a song-Thank random lady I will always remember your kind face.  After this whole dilemma, I got randomly selected for additional screening and that smile quickly turned to tears.  Three out of four members of my family were now in tears and two of us were covered in poop.  It was a HUGE mess-but I will never see any of those people again and that is life with kids!

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Note: super tired parents and toddlers pulling each other’s hair = going with the flow. lol

10.  If at all possible give yourself a “travel day” on your vacation.  Missed naps + long walks + travel = cranky kids and tired parents.   If you have an extra day just to get there it will help elevate stress and actually allow you to enjoy your vacation.  If you can afford that extra night trust me and just do it-because you loose a whole day just traveling

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Those are my top tips on surviving flying with toddlers and babies!   Don’t let the extra little humans in your family hold you back from making a mark on your travel map!   Happy summer and I hope you all have great summer vacations!  Ps.  As much as we have gone on airplanes with kids we’ve never done a car road trip!!! Moms who are masters at car trips please leave some advice in the comments below!

XOXO

Your Redlocks and Shamrocks Girl,

Lisa Doyle

 

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Redlocks Review: Nuby Snack N’ Sip

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Today Redlocks and Shamrocks is bringing you a review on a product that I now say “changed my life,” the Nuby Snack N’ Sip hitting stores this October!   There are so many cups and snack holders out on the market, but this one makes things SOOOO much easier!   I don’t know about you but getting my TWO under TWO in the car is a whole ordeal.   Not to mention all the snacks, cups, and toys that can’t be left behind-according to my two year old!  The Nuby Snack N’ Sip allows you to have one less thing in your hand as it combines a cup and snack holder!

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The Nuby Snack N’ Sip holds 9oz of liquid on the bottom and 4.5 oz of dry snacks on the top!  The snack holder section snaps closed, but is easy enough for a little one to open and closed.   

The cup is NO SPILL: Logan tested, mommy approved!  The straw on the cup is a soft silicone flex straw–my favorite, as I feel it is less dangerous while running and playing with the cup in hand. The no spill valve opens with lip pressure so that the flow rate is totally controlled by the toddler.

This product is recommended for 12 months and up, but in the Doyle house we share EVERYTHING so Kohen-my 7 month old-approves too!

img_7949The Nuby product is of course BPA free and comes is fun colors and prints.   The Nuby Snack N’ Sip is coming to Babies R Us this October!

As I am writing this blog and Logan saw the pictures of herself using the Snack N’ Sip cup she ran around the house looking for it!  She is obsessed! I hope you enjoy this product as much as Logan and I do!

XOXO

Your Redlocks and Shamrocks Girl,

Lisa Doyle

Redlocks Recipe: Hidden Veggie Pizza Rolls

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My two year old is currently obsessed with Pizza!  Not going to lie sometimes we told her some meals are pizza when they are totally not just so she will eat them…Sorry Logie!   After a long day’s work the LAST thing I want to do is to spend time in the kitchen and not playing with my children.  😦  I am trying to find more and more recipes that are easy and Logan can help me make! That way dinner is being made and we are spending quality time in the kitchen.   (Hook a girl up if you have some of those meals!)  I have also found that Logan is more likely to eat something if she is helping with the process-even if it may slow me down.   For this Redlocks Recipe I will share my Hidden Veggie Pizza Rolls- this is not a cute “Pinterest perfect” recipe in looks but it is SUPER easy, tastes good, and can hide vegetables inside.  🙂  It took us about 15 minutes to throw together because we were on TODDLER TIME and 20mins to cook! 

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Ingredients:

  • Crescent Dough
  •  A can of Pizza Sauce
  • Turkey Pepperoni
  • Mozzarella Cheese
  • Organic Chopped Spinach (or any veggies of your choice to sneak in)
  • Other pizza toppings of your choice.

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Roll out dough with rolling pin, make sure to use flour!   I like to lay out some parchment paper for easy clean up.  While doing this step, I cooked the spinach. 

Mix the spinach and pizza sauce together and spread on the dough.   I didn’t let Logie help on this part to keep the veggies HIDDEN!  Shhhhhhh

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Sprinkle on the mozzarella cheese!  Logan LOVED this job!

Lay on the turkey pepperoni and other pizza toppings of your choice.  We keep it simple in the Doyle house. 

Carefully roll up the dough tight (note my not perfect roll…it still tasted yummy…remember I am only a supermom in disguise.)  Cut into slices…again not perfect.. spray your baking tray with Pam, place accordingly, and top with MORE cheese!

Then pop it in the oven at 375 degrees for about 20 minutes and have a DANCE PARTY in the kitchen while you wait!  P.S.  If anyone wants to sponsor me in renovating my kitchen I would be all about that…just kidding…no but really, a girl can dream right? 

When the dough is cooked through and cheese is melted voila! A toddler made meal with hidden veggies!   We severed ours with some boneless BBQ chicken nuggets on our Nuby Sure Grip Miracle Mat!   This plate suctions to the table and is easy to clean!   Available on Amazon and at Babies R’ Us.

That’s all to it!   This was my first time toying with this recipe, next time I might go a “healthier” route and swap somethings out but all is all it was quick and easy!  If you didn’t already read about my quick and easy toddler lunch idea check it out here.

What are some dinner ideas you love??? Comment below with your favorite recipe!

XOXO

Your Redlocks and Shamrocks Girl,

Lisa Doyle

Redlocks Review: Nuby Designer Series Snack Keeper

Redlocks is here bringing you a product review of the Nuby Designer Series Snack Keeper!

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The Nuby Designer Series Snack Keeper supports independent eating as your baby grows and develops into a toddler.   This snack keeper works wonders to hold in snacks as a toddler is running around your house or out and about! I use this product at home, in the car, out running endless errands, grocery shopping, or even at the park.   I also love the fact that the toddler can’t completely “see” whats inside.   So I can mix her favorites with some of my healthy favorites and its a surprise as she snacks on the go.

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It comes in super fun colors and designs! And each part-lid, handle, bowl, comes apart for quick and easy cleaning.

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The super soft lid is perfect for tiny hands to reach in and get their snack.   I don’t know about you but my toddler loves eating snacks out of containers!   This is a great way to make your own healthy snack, but still displaying it in a “fun” way.

The clever design means you can enjoy mess free snacking with fewer spills and waste!  This is also a life saver in the CAR!!!  

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Lets toddlers in, keeps doggies out! 🙂

The Doyle house not only has two kids under two, we also have two crazy dogs!   The Doyle dogs are constantly following around my two year old waiting for her to drop a snack or leave a plate unattended.   With the Nuby Snack Keeper they can’t get the food!

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The Nuby Designer Series Snack Keeper is of course BPA FREE and has a scratch free protective bottom.    This Nuby product is Redlocks and Shamrocks approved as is available for purchase at Babies R’ Us and Amazon!

What is your favorite on the go toddler snack to keep in your Nuby snack holder???

XOXO,

Your Redlocks and Shamrocks Girl,

Lisa Doyle

A Break from the Typical Pinterest Party: Making a Birthday Special on a Budget

I am taking a relationship break from Pinterest Parties…….We’ve been in a pretty serious relationship the past few years, but I am sorry crazy Pinterest Parties I NEED A BREAK.

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IMG_6697So I am the first to admit that Pinterest has sucked me in….sucked me in SO DEEP that the last few years all the parties I have thrown have been themed, had fancy handcrafted decor, and had food that is obviously carrot sticks and hummus but has to have an over top oh so cutesy name.     I am losing the energy people!!   Having two under two I just can’t keep up, I don’t know how some supermoms do it!  Those parties take SO much time, effort, energy and MONEY.     This year for Logan’s birthday I just couldn’t come up with the energy to throw her an over the top party which she wouldn’t even remember.   It made me think of my birthday parties I had as a little kid.   They were SO much fun!   Most of the parties consisted of pizza delivery, a decorated table covered with a plastic table cloth coordinated with matching plates and hats, and a fun decorated cake-usually handmade by my mom, the current queen of crazy-over-the-top-Pinterest-Parties.    So for Logie’s birthday she wasn’t going to get an expensive birthday party that her budgeting parents would really be throwing just for “show”  but she was going to get a MEMORABLE celebration of being TWO YEARS OLD!   Here are some of the inexpensive ways we said HAPPY 2nd BIRTHDAY to our princess! 

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Logan woke entering the world as a two year old to 30 balloons and streamers from the dollar store.   The hardest part of throwing this together was blowing up 30 balloons after bedtime….if we are keeping score on balloon blowing skills Mommy: 7 Daddy: 23.

This is the Doyle party at 6:18 in the morning….anyone else’s kids are ready to party that early?

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The one thing we did spring for Logan’s birthday was her KidKraft kitchen.    The rest of the gifts in this photo (besides the blue bouncy horse from Auntie Kelli) were all from the Dollar Tree!   

It does not take much to make a two year old happy-plastic veggies and fruit- toy animals and dinosaurs-bins to organize kitchen stuff-will keep this girl happy for months.

DONUTS!!!!! Who doesn’t love a dozen Dunkin Dounts!!!  Logan got to experience her first dounut!  We also sang Happy Birthday to her for the 10th time already lol

This was very special for Logan because she rarely…almost never….gets sweets!

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No fancy “I’m two” outfit for this girl….she wore a dress from Old Navy that she can wear over and over again-or at least until she grows out of it.   Instead we sprung for a number 2 balloon from our local party store.

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Post nap we had family over for pizza and cake and I went SO simple…or I like to say “old school” with the decor.   This two under two momma didn’t even make it to the party store, I ordered all of this from Amazon.

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Overall this two year old had the best birthday!!!  I am so happy with the decision to go low key and not throw an over the top party which would cost 100s of dollars.    However readers, I did say this was a “relationship break” from Pinterest parties, so there are no promises that for future celebrations it might suck me back in, but until then I will still dream of that pizza delivery and hit the gym for that third slice I should have put back.

 

XOXO

Your Redlocks and Shamrocks girl,

Lisa Doyle

A Redlocks Review: Nuby Snooize Pacifier

Redlocks and Shamrocks LOVES the Nuby brand!

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Redlocks and Shamrocks LOVES the brand Nuby!   We use so many of their products on a daily basis, Logan won’t go anywhere without her Nuby Flex Straw Cup and Kohen loves his Nuby Teething Keys!  

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Logan and her Nuby Flex Straw Cup

Nuby has just came out with Kohen’s new favorite product the Snoozie Plush Pacifier Holder and All Silicone Natural Flex Pacifier!   This product is avaliable at Babies R Us and is coming soon to Amazon. 

The Doyle kids are breastfed babies so they aren’t given pacifiers until pretty late in the baby game, however Kohen LOVES this pacifier.   Not only does it help sooth him, he loves playing with the cute monkey!  The natural Flex pacifier simulates the natural flexing movement of a mother’s nipple and there are nubs on the collar to help with teething and tender gums.   The pacifier is of course BPA Free, but also has a gentle curving feature away from the babies face allowing for airflow to protect the baby’s delicate skin. 

 The plush character makes the pacifier easy for him to handle putting it in and out of his mouth while soothing him at the same time.  Its also offered in a little giraffe as well. 

And how cute is the monkey!–Don’t worry moms its attached by Velco, so you can take it off to clean and sterilize the pacifier with ease or wash the plush toy if you want to go crazy!

Overall Redlocks and Shamrocks approves the Nuby Snoozie Plush Pacifier Holder and All Silicone Natural Flex Pacifier and we are adding it to the list of Nuby products we already love!

XOXO

Your Redlocks and Shamrocks girl,

Lisa Doyle

 

Breastfeeding a Newborn with a Toddler in Tow: A Whole New Challenge.

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Breastfeeding a Newborn with a Toddler in tow: A Whole New Challenge.

Breastfeeding isn’t easy, any mom can tell you that. However it’s an amazing bonding experience between your new bundle of joy and the mom that can be so relaxing and amazing.   Those “relaxing” breastfeeding sessions are over when you have a toddler that WON’T SIT STILL. I learned this very quickly when trying to nurse my newborn while my then 17 month old was climbing furniture and falling nearly cracking her head on our hard tile floor. If she wasn’t climbing furniture she was darting into another room after I got all “set up” to breastfeed.   Here are some tips I have to keep your older one entertained while trying to nurse.

  1. Give the toddler a job– burping buddy, burp cloth and water bottle retriever, or “mommy hand holder” are my favorite “jobs” for my daughter. Logan is always happy to help with things for Kohen so she loves getting his burp cloth.   She also likes to help burp her little brother by lightly tapping his back-or sometimes not so lightly, lol. Logan also is now trained to hand me any water bottle in sight at any given moment-sometimes helpful, sometimes not.   When those jobs have failed, I have asked Logie to be the “mommy hand holder” to keep me company while we sing songs.

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    “Kohen burped! Skuzzz me Kohen”–Logie

  2. Books, Books, Books!-keep a pile on hand! I have a bunch of books in different baskets, which are easy to grab and move to the couch to read while nursing. I will always read my daughter a few stories to keep her entertained while her little brother eats. Now she is trained to pick out books and bring them to the couch.    She even will pick up the book basket and bring over yelling, “look at me, I’m strong!”IMG_6179
  3. Flash cards to learn ABCs, numbers, or shapes! My proud mommy moment is that Logan knows all of her letters and the ABC song before she is two years old! IMG_6178(You go Logie!) We practiced ABC flashcards a lot while nursing Kohen.  Stop by the dollar store and pick up a pack (or two because when you lose letters Q, F, and X in the couch its hard to complete all 26 letters). Or you can even make your own out index cards.
  4. Count! We practice counting baby’s tiny toes and fingers! We have counting 1-10 down pat!
  5. Master the breastfeed and WALK. Yep ever wonder how that 19 Kids and Counting lady does it? Carry the newborn attached to the boob around the house, it’s not easy but it can be done. Like I said, relaxing breastfeeding sessions are hard to come by!
  6. LAST resort- TV show or movie. I HATE this option because I don’t like my children watching TV, but sometimes it’s all you have.   If all else fails make sure you have your DVR stacked with short shows to bust out the good ole “sit here and zone out kid, so you don’t get into something you’re not supposed to” trick.   I did enjoy playing Logan the old classic Disney movies and we would watch them in 20 minute chunks taking us several days to finish.
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We spend a lot of time on this couch nursing!  To the side of this couch is a toy bin filled with Logan’s toys so she doesn’t have to stop her playing for me to nurse Kohen.

Those are the few tips I have.   Now when I need to feed Kohen I ask Logan if she wants to “help me feed the baby” and she jumps for joy!   She has also pushed Kohen’s screaming and crying face into my breast and said, “Hey! Eat your boobie!” Hahaha

What tricks do you have to keep your toddler entertained while nursing? Comment below with your tricks and tips!

Until Next time XOXO

Your Redlocks and Shamrocks girl,

Lisa Doyle

 

Easy and Quick Toddler Lunch- Sushi Sandwiches!

Easy and Quick Toddler Lunch- Sushi Sandwiches! Wait…I mean “circle sandwiches”

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So if your toddler is like mine, they become obsessed with one type of food and want only that.  Then all of a sudden, BAM, they hate it!   I don’t know what it is with their picky pallets that make them change their mind all the time but it drives me nuts!   Logan sometimes is a great eater, then the next week she is not.   I made these Sushi Sandwiches (renamed Circle Sandwiches by Logan) for lunch to sneak in some protein.   They literally took MAYBE FIVE MINUTES to whip up.   I even made them while my crying 5 month old was in my arms.   This is so easy to make you look like a supermom in disguise!  Steps are below!

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Logan holding up a Circle Sandwich

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All I did to whip these up were:

  1. Flatted out a slice of bread with a rolling pan and cut off crust

  2. Lay on a slice of cheese

  3. Lay on 2-3 slices of lunch meat

  4. Roll tight like a sushi master

  5. Slice into individual circles

BAM done!   You could add veggies or maybe mayo or mustard but I didn’t want to press my luck! Bite size sandwiches easy for those toddler fingers to pick up!

Comment below with your favorite quick and easy meal!

XOXO

Your Redlocks and Shamrocks girl,

Lisa Doyle

Daddy Nursing Tips: You Don’t Got Dem Boobies, But You Got Duties!

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Most mothers know breastfeeding is one of the hardest challenges of motherhood.   Nursing is something most moms want to do, not all can for many reasons, and some give up because of challenges they face.   When you are a breastfeeder- you are the cow…ugh I mean food supply. No one can give you a 2am break to get some needed sleep or a 6pm break so you can actually eat a meal with two hands.   I am very lucky that I have a 100% supportive husband for me being the only one who can feed our child.   One breastfeeding session alone can take around 30 minutes resulting in a lot of lost sleep for mommy and less chores she can do around the house. (Oh darn on that second one). Parenting is a team effort, so DADS here is where you can pick up your end of the bargain with some tips to help your wife through this challenging time.

  1. When the baby cries in the middle of the night go get them first! Yes that newborn probably wants milk but first that little bundle must be changed. This allows mommy some time to go to the bathroom or rub the crust out of her eye before a 3am feeding.
  2. After you have changed the baby and passed them off to mom make sure she has necessities: a drink and entertainment. After my husband always passes of the baby to me, he makes sure I have my phone and a bottle of water in arms reach. There is something about nursing that makes you INSTANTLY thirsty, and I’m not going to lie, if I wasn’t Instagram stalking people at 4am I would fall asleep on the job! He even stepped it up a notch and would put my hair up in a bun for me so it didn’t get tangled in the little one’s fingers. I KNOW he is amazing.
  3. Remember mommy’s job is input, your job is output. Yep, if the baby is dirty just go change them!   Once you’ve master the art of diaper changing and you’re not dealing with a stage ten blowout a diaper change can take minutes- remember breastfeeding can take almost thirty minutes.
  4. Do more chores-laundry, dishes, whatever! I pretty much a psycho when it comes to a clean house. There is nothing more frustrating to me when I am in the middle of cleaning or doing a chore when I have to stop what I’m doing to nurse. Then you just have to sit there for what feels like forever and STARE at the disaster that is your kitchen.   So if your wifey has to pause a job, finish it for her OR even better start before that little gal or little man wants to eat.
  5. When mommy is nursing give a little massage! Breastfeeding can really hurt your back and/or arms.   Personally, I carry a lot of tension in my neck and shoulders when breastfeeding and let me tell you its an amazing feeling when my husband is rubbing my shoulders when I am cuddling my son.
  6. If you’re wifey is a working and pumping mama wash those bottles like nobodies business! Pumping at work is a whole other challenge, then you find yourself home from a long day’s work to your more important job parenthood only to have to store ounces of breastmilk every night and breast pump attachments to wash. Ugh, I’m exhausted just typing the words! Help out mommy, she took time out of her workday, so now its your turn-wash, dry, store, label, freeze.

There are my tips for you dads!  These are also not things I never asked my husband to do, these are things he just did ON HIS OWN to help me and support me through this journey.

Until next time XOXO

Your Redlocks and Shamrocks girl,

Lisa Doyle